💌 PWTS Guide: How to Say “You’re Not Invited” with Grace & Confidence ✨

Let’s be real — trimming your guest list is one of the hardest parts of planning your dream wedding or event. But with the right approach, you can deliver the message politely, confidently, and without guilt. Here’s how to keep it classy, kind, and totally stress-free:

1️⃣ Be Honest

Keep it upfront. Let them know the guest list is tight or your venue has limits. Honesty is always appreciated!

2️⃣ Express Regret

A little “wish we could have you” goes a long way. Softens the message while showing you care. 💖

3️⃣ Personalize the Message

If possible, give a brief reason — like budget or venue constraints. Makes it feel sincere instead of generic.

4️⃣ Say Thank You

Thank them for understanding and remind them that your relationship is valued. Gratitude always wins. 🙏

5️⃣ Offer Alternatives

Suggest a future get-together — lunch, dinner, or a small celebration — so they know they’re still part of your life. 🥂

6️⃣ Be Firm

Stick to your decision. No guilt, no backtracking — you’re making the best choice for your event! 💪

7️⃣ Deliver Personally

If you can, say it in person or via phone. Adds respect and sincerity. 📞💌

8️⃣ Give Advance Notice

Don’t wait until the last minute. Giving time shows thoughtfulness and consideration. ⏰

9️⃣ Keep It Private

Don’t broadcast the guest list decisions — protect feelings and prevent drama. 🤫

🔟 Focus on the Positive

Highlight what you do value about your relationship and express hope for continued connection. 💕

1️⃣1️⃣ Be Gracious

Stay polite, kind, and professional. Tone matters more than words. ✨

1️⃣2️⃣ Stick to Your Guns

Resist pressure. Your day, your decisions — no compromises. 💎

1️⃣3️⃣ Seek Understanding

Explain that tough choices had to be made to ensure the event is enjoyable for everyone. 🥳

1️⃣4️⃣ Reiterate Appreciation

Let them know your decision wasn’t taken lightly and that their friendship matters. ❤️

1️⃣5️⃣ Follow Up

Check in afterward if appropriate — reinforces respect and thoughtfulness. 🤝

💡 PWTS Tip: Remember, saying “no” doesn’t make you mean — it makes you intentional. Protect your vibe, your budget, and your guest experience, while keeping your heart full.

✨ Keep it classy. Keep it confident. Keep it fun. ✨